Posts Tagged 'my life'

Attitude Adjustment

I have been thinking a lot lately about the impact attitude can have on a person’s life.

There was a time for me when everything was pretty… chaotic, to say the least.  It seemed like every time I turned around, something bad was happening.  I had health issues that put me in the hospital.  Someone broke into my car.  My cat ran away.  I was in a car wreck.  Someone pulled a gun on me while I was at work (ever have to go around booting people’s cars to pay the bills? Not. Fun.)  The house I was subletting caught on fire.  I lost my hearing aid somewhere in Canada.  (No, I’m not making any of that up.)

On and on the list went.  It seemed like every time things started looking up, something else would happen and my life would spin out of control again.  I tried making a fresh start.  I tried looking on the bright side of things.  I kept picking myself up and moving on, but things just kept getting worse. 

Finally, I realized that the problem wasn’t what was happening to me, the problem was me.  The more chaotic and negative I was, the more out of control my life was.  Oh, sure, some of the things were beyond my control, but almost everything could be linked back to me and the choices I was making.  The problem was my attitude.  You see, I expected bad things to happen.  Every time disaster struck, I mentally nodded my head and thought, “See?  Life is hard.”   

The day I changed my attitude was the day I changed my life.  I was sitting in the dark eating ice cream and crying and I thought, enough.  I made a list of my goals, and then began taking steps to achieve them.  I started taking better care of myself.  I went back to school.  Got a decent job.  One by one, things started to fall into place.  Everything stopped being about damage control and started being about living.  It’s amazing how much things changed once I started expecting good things to happen.  There were no more fires, for one thing.  I became truly happy, for another.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately because this month marks an important anniversary for me.  One year ago I left an abusive relationship.  I took only the clothes that would fit in my sister’s car and my newborn son and moved back home.  This last year has been about starting over and dealing with the fact that I am now raising J on my own.  It’s been a reminder of how important it is to stay positive. 

It certainly hasn’t been an easy year, but it hasn’t been bad either.  I have an amazing support system. I was able to find a job that allows me to bring J along.  I recently received an internship doing what I love. I have a happy, healthy boy who lights up my days.   And slowly but surely, I am rebuilding my life. 

I firmly believe that the good things that have happened and the opportunities that have come my way are due, at least in part, to having a positive attitude.  I could have stayed angry.  I could have focused on the negative things.  I could have bought into the belief that from now on, life was going to be a struggle.  If I had let myself think that way, I probably would have been right.

You get back from life what you put in.  If you are someone who is very negative, you’re going to be surrounded by similar people.  You will miss out on opportunities because you are focused on the things that are going wrong.  And you can’t be happy while you’re holding on to your bad attitude. 

Do you know people who are miserable with their lives?  I know I do.  Maybe they hate their job, or where they live, or they are stuck in a dead-end relationship.  Something always seems to be going wrong.  They complain.  They may wish for things to be different, but nothing ever changes. 

That’s because they haven’t changed.   

In order for things to get better, first you have to want things to change.  You have to believe that life can be good.  And you have to be willing to work to make changes happen in your life.

What are you going to do to make your life better today?

Only two days left-don’t forget to vote!  Thank you!!

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Giving Thanks

Gluten-Free Rolls: One of the many things I am thankful for.

Thanksgiving is over, and in the aftermath of turkey and family my head is full of jumbled thoughts and half-formed posts.  I’m running on little sleep and too much coffee, but I wanted to get something written while I have access to a computer and my sister has the boy occupied.

It has been a wonderful holiday, one of the best I can remember.  My brother and his fiance drove down from Seattle, and having our family together in one place was something we were all grateful for.  The smell of good food and the (sometimes noisy) sounds of a house full of teasing and laughter brought back memories of childhood and loved ones now gone, making it feel as though they were sharing the day with us.  It was truly a day to be thankful for.

As the day went on, I kept thinking about how important family is.  This is what life is about, I thought.  It is the people you love, and who love you back.  It’s enjoying the moments you have together.  It’s the nights of board games and talking and laughter.  It’s handing down traditions to the new generation, and sharing memories together.  It’s all the little things that make up our relationships.  Everything else is just background noise.

Thanksgiving is over, but the time to be thankful is not.  Take a moment today to listen to the important sounds in your life.  Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.  Laugh.  Don’t let the important moments of your life pass you by.

Better Luck Next Time

Alright, it’s official… I totally fail this month’s blogging challenge. 

I think we need to file this under not adding things to your plate if you’re already full (nice holiday reference there).  I knew this  month was going to be insane for me as far as work (and life in general) went, and I knew that it was going to be incredibly difficult for me to post every day.  I finally had to allow myself to fail the blogging challenge in order to avoid putting up ridiculously bad posts. 

That said… I think another lesson is not to give up.  I have missed a few days (okay, entire weeks.  Don’t judge), but that doesn’t mean that I can’t put every effort into finishing out the month strong.  And there’s always next month, right?

My blog, like my entire life, is undergoing some changes right now.  I’m rethinking the direction I want it to go.  I’m playing with different ideas, tweaking design, identifying my goals.  If you have suggestions or would like to let me know what things you like (and what you didn’t), I welcome all feedback!

In the meantime:  take today’s lesson to heart.  Be realistic in the things you can handle, and be gentle with yourself if you need a do-over sometimes.

The Day Half-Done

workinbabyDo you ever have one of those days where you are moving, but you never get anywhere?

You keep working harder, but nothing gets done?

Today was that day for me. I have several half-started posts, laundry in the wash, and at least three major projects for work barely begun. I went to work in mismatched socks. J didn’t have on any socks at all.

It’s not the end of the world. Perhaps tomorrow will be more productive. Perhaps tomorrow J will not wake up crying at 4 am. There are more important things than checking things off lists.

So I am drifting off to sleep while writing this, giving myself permission to call it a day and try again tomorrow.

 

Not to be Cheesy, but…

While I have not been notified officially, it looks like I am moving on to the next round in my quest to win the Sam-e Good Mood Gig!

Here is a big THANK YOU for everyone that voted for me, begged friends to vote for me, or bribed strangers on the street to vote for me.  Thank you for posting my link on your Facebook pages, sending tweets, shooting emails, posting on message boards, and enlisting coworkers in my cause.   And let’s be honest, thank you for not saying mean things to me and deleting me from your friends lists for obsessively reminding you to vote for me every day.

The final tally was 5151 votes, which put me in 17th place… out of over 800 applicants.  Not bad for a small-town girl who’s just getting started in this whole blogging thing.  I’m kind of in shock.  I keep waiting for someone to pinch me.  (If I end up actually getting the position, I may have to be revived.)  

I am so incredibly lucky to have such an amazing support system. 

Thank you, everyone, for giving this girl a chance.

ETA: I just received my official notification!

Freakin Friday, Revised.

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Who can resist that face?

My morning started out rough.  The little man was up a lot last night (dang teeth), and I really wasn’t ready to get up.  I discovered I did not, in fact, have another box of diapers.  I have procrastinated grocery shopping, so breakfast options were slim.  I tripped on my way out the door and bruised my shin.  It’s the last day of voting, and suddenly I’m slipping out of the top twenty.  A hundred little things that set my teeth on edge and left me thinking, “Freaking Friday.”  Because for some reason, all of my Fridays end up being completely chaotic and full of little annoyances.

Somewhere between home and work, my attitude shifted.  I took a deep breath and listened to the happy chatter of my one year old in the back seat.  I paused in my mental list of grumpiness and realized that the lake is absolutely beautiful today, and the sun is peaking through the clouds. 

I decided to postpone the post I had in mind for today and instead take a minute to focus on the things I am thankful for today. 

  • I have family and friends that love me.  They are always there for whatever I need, and I cannot thank them enough.
  • My car works.  Enough said.
  • Sunshine.  Just a little bit can really perk up a yucky day.
  • I have a warm place to sleep tonight.
  • There’s this really awesome kid in my life who never fails to make me smile.  He’s freaking hilarious.
  • Holidays are just around the corner, which means playing dominoes with the family, enjoying each other’s company, and eating.  A lot.
  • I am finally over the flu, and more importantly, J is finally over the flu.
  • I do not own a goat, or any chickens.  Trust me, I consider this a very good thing.

 What is helping you get through your Freakin Friday?

National Blog Posting Month

nabloOh, sweet blog, I have neglected you the last couple weeks.  I’m sorry, there will be flowers and candy to make up for it.

I blame the fact that the boy and I have been either sick or out of town every day for the last three weeks.  Add that to my obsessive campaigning in order to get the Sam-e blogging gig, lack of agreeable computer, and the craziness of life in general… well, you get it.  This blog has been neglected.

Well, that stops now.  In order to get myself back into the swing of things, I am participating in the November 2009 National Blog Posting Month challenge.  The goal is to write 30 posts in 30 days–one a day.  (And this is where you laugh and point out that this is November 2nd and I’m already behind.  Thank you, I’m already aware.  No prize for me.) 

The idea is to improve my writing, my blog in general, and get back into the habit of blogging every single day (remember when I did that?  That was fun).  It’s not going to be easy.  The boy and I are both still sick.  The computer I share is no less temperamental than it was last week.  I’m still trying desperately for that blogging job, and many others if I’m honest.  But it’s a worthy goal, and I’m excited to try.  Feel free to poke me if I fall behind. 

It’s going to be a busy month.